Humans are social beings. It is in our nature. However, with that inherent need to socialize, comes a toll – emotional attachments. Unfortunately, depending on the circumstances, some people have trouble forming healthy relationships.
Attachment Disorder Symptoms
Often a result of a tumultuous childhood (or even infancy!), attachment disorder symptoms typically take one of two forms – either an inhibited or disinhibited type.
In the former case, the attachment disorder symptoms take a more solitary turn. The child may be detached, withdrawn, and hard to connect with; they might not respond to comforting and could have difficulty controlling their feelings. Also, they may have an aversion to touch and physical affection.
In the latter case, symptoms may take a seemingly more “personable”, but equally dangerous, shape. The child might seek attention from anyone with no particular preference. They may be inclined to go away with strangers or talk with adults they do not know. In the first situation, the child has trouble attaching to anyone at all; in the second, they don’t have a preferred attachment figure.
Some symptoms that both forms share include a sense of worthlessness that may haunt a child all the way through their journey toward becoming an adult; difficulty giving and receiving love; emotional problems (including anxiety and depression); and trouble understanding morality. In fact, one of the most frightening attachment disorder symptoms is the lack of remorse – not having formed healthy relationships can lead to an underdeveloped conscience, as well as anger issues.
Time is the Best Doctor
While there is no magic cure to alleviate your child’s troubles, it is important to stay patient and positive. Even though your child may have a hard time connecting, by remaining supportive, you let them feel safe in your presence. Encourage them to communicate with you about their feelings and find ways to spend time together doing things your child enjoys.
If your child’s attachment disorder symptoms become difficult to contain, it may be time to consider professional help.
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